When I say “connect to yourself”, what do you feel? Our stressful and fast-paced lives often make us lose sight of what’s important. With this article, I invite you to stop and become aware of the being that you truly are!
We all need moments of disconnection and these can take very different forms. It’s about taking a snippet of time for yourself. That can sometimes be just a few minutes and other times – a few days or more.
In my old life, or should I rather say when I worked in a large American corporation, I struggled to raise my 2 little children with patience and love and tried to maintain my balance to a fulfilling life. The moments I spent to myself only were still rather rare.
It was all about the few minutes I spent to smoke my cigarette, even if this little time span was reoccurring very regularly during the day. It was also the few minutes I had for reading a book before bedtime. Going from start to finish usually took me 3 months because I was constantly getting lulled to sleep unintentionally.
I would usually also go and work out at noon with the goal of keeping my waistline small rather than getting a moment to myself. And as for the last thing – once every two weeks I went out with my girlfriends to a restaurant and then hopped on over to a bar for the purpose of sharing some nice moments of laughter. And that was all the “me” time I had.
The rest of it I dedicated to my employer, my children, my house, my husband, in short to others.
It’s funny today to think of how disconnected I was at the time, and it’s honestly not surprising that I’ve sent off most of it, apart from my children be reassured. I decided to change it all and take a 180-degree turn for the better.
Then came the big disconnection – I left my job and decided to launch myself into the void. The only way I could describe it is – it was really emptiness that defined it. My external and internal constructs were no more. Before, I lived at 100 km/per hour in the outside world that we all know, and then I decided to switch to a life in slow motion where my inner world evolved slowly and gently.
I then understand what disconnection really means.
The disconnection from stress, society, overconsumption, overbookings, led me to let myself live, go for walks alone in the nature, read a book during the day in peace, cook up good, fresh and balanced dishes, practice yoga for long periods of time in a session without someone watching me, without taking a look at the watch and losing myself in my meditations, so I could find myself.
This disconnection allowed me to connect with myself.
During this great period of disconnection from almost everything and re-connecting with myself, I was still keeping busy with building my new career. Website creation, development of social networks, launch of yoga classes left and right, spiced up with a few coaching sessions. This is what I did in my little world.
Then gradually I reconnected to the outside one but not in the same way as before. I worked on my own, on solo projects and sometimes in collaboration, I went to the yoga studio to either give or take a course, I preferred to spend my evenings in quiet at home with my family or friends, but most of all, none of that would have happened without me disconnecting.
Disconnecting and connecting to myself became a vital part of my life. Sometimes, a few minutes are enough for me, other times I need a few hours and on other occasions I even gift myself a few days. I then withdraw from the world, I enter my own to recharge, find myself and appreciate the fact of just being.
Most people I meet, whether in individual coaching or during my workshops, do not take enough time for themselves. We spend our lives outside of ourselves, serving the outside world, and then we start missing the richness of the self, the bliss of being.
Being alone in front of oneself can be destabilizing at the beginning, and sometimes even scare us, but it is an obligatory passage, if one wants to find inner peace that is.
I do not ask you to dump everything in light of my story and go live in a desert island for a year, I just want to encourage you to think about those questions: “When do I gift real moments to myself? How important are these moments for me? How could I improve the quality and quantity of those? “
And as I have become rather good in disconnecting and re-connecting with myself, I invite you all to come and meet me at my workshops every Sunday morning and Wednesday evening in the quarter des Grottes. Spend a moment just to yourself, disconnect from the world and connect with the real you, so you can start stepping up towards your inner peace.
You will find all the information on this offer on my website everybodyandco.com or in my Facebook events.